The bonds shared by lovers isnt always rosy, there are thick and thin times too. We are different in our thinking and behaviours..Every persons is affected by either their bargrounds or the way they were brought up.
Relationship can be very demanding and complicated. There are no set of universal roles that guarantees the success of any happy relationship. Every healthy relationship needs committness, true love, Gods will and sacrifices for it to work.
But there are lines that should never be crossed in a relationship. Below are some few rules you should always follow when you are dating someone.
Never beg for love or chase anyone:
Ever been in a relationship were you do all the calls, textings, visits and even the simplest things? Like begging for their attentions? Have you ever felt lonely in your relationship? Heres the deal; when you feel your partner isnt emotionally available as they should be and they aint picking your calls or spending quality time with you.
If they are always shutting you out, then dont run after them. You can try and fight to keep your relationship but not at the expense of your happiness. You are responsible for your own happiness, never tie your happiness to anyone.
But dont work so hard that your relationships become a rollercoaster ride where you loose yourself over someone who doesnt care about your existence. Please never ever chase or beg anyone for love because you will end up heartbroken.
2. Don’t Date Anyone For Too Long:
Everyone has a different expectation when it comes to a relationship. Any courtship/dating thats more than 2-years isnt leading to anywhere. The minimum duration for dating is 6-months. For the girls and ladies be sure you avoid premarital sex with any man who promises to marry you. A responsible man who’s genuinely ready to marry you will never take you to bed.
For the girls and ladies if sex is all you have to offer a man, dont marry! No man wants a liability as a wife, every sane man wants a helpmate and a financial partner. Make sure you are earning before you prepare for your wedding. Even in the bible in Prov 31, the virtous woman in the bible was very industrious and financially independent.
Know your worth, dont let anyone’s indecisiveness wear you out emotionally and never wait for someone who will keep you hanging with empty promises.
3. Always Communicate With Your Partner:
Breaking the rule of communication in any relationship isnt healthy. Communication is vital to any successful relationship. Alway talk about their shortcomings, dont bottle up or sweep it under the rug, it could lead to resentments and acrimony which can be toxic for you both.
If you are in a distance relationship, call your spouse as soon as you wake up in the morning, they should be the first thing on your mind when you wake up after saying your morning prayers and ensure to call them at evening before you sleep and ask them how their day went. Dont always do the callings, your spouse should reciprocate and ensure to give them space too….Too much calls can make your spouse loose their respect for you.
4. Respect Each Other’s Privacy:
Every one needs space to think and clear life’s pressure off their head. Its detrimental to any relationship when he or she becomes insecured and clingy to their partner. Ensure to train yourself to always forgive before anyone offends you because offences will always come.
Never spy or look into your partners’s phone. If they are cheating, show them more love and kindness, most importantly pray for them, dont start a fight or become violent by snabbing your husband or going to confront his sidechick or mistress. Allow them to live their live.
If you discover your spouse is cheating, first talk to God about it before asking them peacefully, if after you both have talked about it and your boyfriend or husband is still cheating, dont stop talking to God about it. Focus more on building yourself, Learn more skills and take new online courses to enhance your skills and knowledge instead of waisting your time spying your cheating husband or boyfriend, build yourself to enhance your financial independence to your family and your community.
5. Dont Hold Unto Someone If He/She Is Going To Let You Go:
Humans are generally unpredictable when it comes to love and feelings. Someone can fall in love with you today but it does not guarantee that they will stay in love with you forever. Their emotions might change within seconds, If that happens, its okay, let them g. Remember never chase or beg for love if they were meant to be in your life they will stay effortlessly and naturally with love and care for you.
Love isnt an obligation, take responsibility of yourself and understand because when people fall in love, they also fall out of love too.